Edward is a loving and kind parent. He knows very well how special Verity, his daughter, is and he has his own way of handling the situation and gain her trust. How challenging this is? How painful and heart breaking it can be to see your own child helpless and confused? How much of these emotions are you allowed to show being the father of the family? A short interview aiming to shed some light over Edward’s world and the position in which he is in.
Q: How does it feel to be the father of the family?
A: Well. you know, there is quite a lot of responsibility that goes into it. Some days it feels more like a full-time job, really. Of course, I love all my family without question! They are the most precious thing to me in the world, and I’d never trade any one of them, for anything. It’s just, some days, all I want is for there to be a perfect day, you know? Without any incidents with Verity, without any phone calls in the night, without any questions and looks of disapproval, just for everything to go well. And it will go well, eventually. Yes. It will.
Q: What is the most challenging thing about Verity?
A: Being a parent is challenging, isn’t it? I think the hardest part is trying to find what the best things for her are, which aren’t necessarily what she wants. The challenge is finding the balance. Jean and I just want to do the best we can for Verity, and the rest of the family. It isn’t easy, but we try to roll with the punches and do our best. She is our little girl and we love her, the test is making sure Verity knows that. She finds it difficult to grasp I think and every day is a test of this. Some days are more testing than others. It is hard but we cannot give up. She pushes us away but we still love her. We are holding on the best we can. I try, but I must confess that my hold is not as steadfast as I would like. I fear of slipping and letting the family down. I hope I have not failed.
Q: How do you feel about yours and Verities relationship compared with everyone else’s in the family
A: Verity is a very special girl. You need to know how to talk to her and it’s not easy. She doesn’t make it easy most of the time. But after a while, you start understanding how she works and how to relate yourself to her. Like with most of children after all. She’s our little girl, and we all love her of course, and I think that she loves us, even though she struggles some times in showing it in a… “usual” way. There are, of course, days when it’s slightly more tough, especially for her mother. Don’t get me wrong, she’s not less of a challenge for me either, but sometimes I wish Verity and Jean could get along as Verity and I do in some occasions. I always had a special relationship with her, since she was a baby. It was easier for me to make her stop crying during her usual night “moments”. Even though growing up, she became more independent, I could still feel a bond between us. I must say, Jean does try hard to “earn” her trust, but most of the time it ends with Verity accusing her of something and bringing her to tears.I really don’t know why she behaves like that with her mother. I feel I should do something about it, but I have no idea what.
Photo credits to Antti Vainio
Spyratou Dimitra is a member in Thespians Anonymous the last three years offering backstage help and coordinating the blog. The particular blog post was written in collaboration with Jonathan, Todd and Giuliano who are going to play Edward on the stage of Hurjaruuth.
Olwen Wymark’s Find me is Thespians Anonymous’ play for Autumn 2016. Shows are on the 22nd, 23rd, 25th and 26th of November, 2016 in Hurjaruuth, Kaapelitehdas Tallberginkatu 1 A Helsinki. For more information visit Thespians Anonymous’ webpage or the Facebook page of the event.